Happy New Year, Lightworkers and Earth Angels! Resolve to forgive every day this year and your heart will be flooded with divine love. You will also become a conduit for the healing power of divine love!
Q & A with the Angels of Forgiveness
Isn’t forgiving just letting go?
The idea that forgiving means letting go or releasing is based on a fascinating conclusion drawn by the human being who couldn’t feel anything but sadness and anger. Sadness and Anger had inundated that person’s third and fourth chakras, so in order to achieve a feeling of control over potentially life-threatening emotions (enough Sadness causes suicide, the ultimate display of submission; enough Anger causes homicide, the ultimate assertion of dominance), the human being made a brilliant (though flawed) decision: These emotions do not have a hold on me. I have the hold on the emotions. And how does this help me? Because IF I have the hold on the potentially life-threatening emotions, THEN I can let go of them whenever I want to.
The flaw in that logic is the perception of who has the hold on whom. Uncomfortable emotions have a hold on us. They are like firefighters shaking us awake in our beds in the middle of the night because a heart chakra conflagration is engulfing our very life. Negative emotions (which would simply be emotions if we had not been taught to label the ones that others might not approve of with the adjective “negative”) wake us up to the fact that: there is someone who is requesting our forgiveness and (in the majority of cases) that there is also an action to take in order to right a wrong or prevent further injustice. Forgiveness is the water that will put out fires such as, but not limited to, fear, anger and sadness.
An emotion is an indicator of the degree to which we can feel God’s Love. Joy is being able to feel God’s Love. Anger and Sadness are indicators that we cannot (temporarily) feel God’s Love. There are few things more terrifying than emotions that threaten to overwhelm us. Our survival instinct is aware of this and will help us make whatever decision is required to avoid the danger of drowning in emotion, even if that conclusion isn’t based in logic. The idea that we can release or let go of an emotion puts us back in control, back on top of that lifesaver, safe from the danger of the murky waters in the sea of ungrieved loss below. Now, control is not power. Control is leveraged from the third chakra and requires constant denial of sadness which consistently depletes our levels of Inspiration and Drive, anchoring our lives in a continuous cycle of survival. Acknowledging emotions, now that it will be safe to do so, because we will know how to forgive, makes the lifesaver unnecessary. We will be free to swim about, happily and creatively, thriving now, instead of simply surviving.
Why forgive using a method?
In addition to providing reasons which motivate you to forgive, the Forgiveness Method teaches you how to forgive at the same time. Think of something you know how to do very well, such as cooking a certain dish, mowing the lawn, sewing a button onto a blouse, changing the oil in a car, or something else you’ve done many times that you now accomplish with a high degree of skill. What is the first step you would take to begin completing the task? Who taught you how to do it? If you learned through self-teaching, via trial and error, remember how good it felt to finally figure out what steps were necessary to take and in what order to yield the most satisfying results? We can look at forgiving in this same light – as something we can learn how to do – and with practice – do very well (with a high degree of skill) and yield satisfying results.
Why forgive with the angels?
The Forgiveness Method calls on the angels of forgiveness in step one and your guardian angel in step two because the angels embody forgiveness. Everyone on Earth has a guardian angel who loves them no matter what they’ve done, are doing, or are considering doing in the future. They love us the way that God does, not because we have earned it with behavior that deserves it but simply because we exist. When we say the forgiveness prayer after step three, their participation (when they join us in prayer) opens our heart that much more. This is because angels personify God’s Love for us, the desire for our happiness (the ability to feel Joy) no matter what we’ve done, are doing, or are considering doing in the future, so their presence alone increases the effectiveness of any prayer. Add to that our conscious request for their participation, and the prayer’s effectiveness is multiplied. Everyone on Earth – everyone, no matter who they are, what they’ve done or what they’re plotting for the future – has a guardian angel. Everyone. Everyone on Earth is loved by God, not because they have earned it or deserve it, but simply because they exist and that is why each person experiencing Separation from God on Earth is assigned a guardian angel. To recap, we forgive with the angels because they embody forgiveness and thus their presence alone increases the effectiveness of our forgiveness prayer.
Lessons in Forgiveness
It is one thing to forgive another human being for hurting you, but to forgive God for allowing everyone to be in pain in the first place and then hurt each other because they’re in pain doesn’t make sense to most people. People ask, Why do bad things happen to good people? The angels of forgiveness remind us that bad things happen to bad people, too, and God allows people to hurt each other in order to give us all the opportunity to learn how to forgive which is to love the way that God loves, not because anyone has earned it or deserves it but because they exist. Without opportunities to forgive, we would never truly know what love is. We exist to learn forgiveness, to be given opportunity after opportunity to choose to love for no other reason than because we can – that is power. Consider for a moment that though you may have grieved incredible loss and endured terrible abuse and attack in your lifetime, undoubtedly you have also felt the joy of hearing the music of a song you can’t get enough of (perceiving sound), laughing at a funny movie or TV show (perceiving joy), or given thanks for warm sunshine on your face or a cool breeze on a hot day (perceived physical sensation and visual stimuli, light). In Heaven, when our souls were still merged with God in a state of blissful Oneness, yes, we were experiencing ecstasy but we didn’t know it, couldn’t perceive it. Now going back to the good song you can’t wait to come on the radio again, the refreshing breeze, etc., God couldn’t allow us to perceive any of those delights without also allowing us to perceive pain. This is because Separation from God allows us to feel everything – not just joy – and is the only way we could perceive anything, good or bad. And God wanted us to be able to perceive the very best thing of all: Oneness. When we were merged in Oneness with God in Heaven, our soul had not yet separated from our soulmate’s soul. Therefore, Oneness with your soulmate is Oneness with God because the last time you experienced either was when you were experiencing both, before Separation. However, the only way we can ever perceive the depth of such bliss is through making love on Earth where Separation allows us to contrast the moment of Oneness with the moment of Separation before and after. To know that beauty, that incredible gift of being able to give one other human being a tangible reminder of what Heaven was, and is, here on Earth, during that reunion of souls, is the whole point. Yes, forgiveness is beautiful, it’s God’s will and we’ll all learn it eventually. But the indescribable beauty of the merging of our soul with the other half of it, our soulmate, and the merge of that whole back into the heart of God is to merge with all of creation, everywhere, to dissolve space and time boundaries and know the inspiration that drives the expansion of the entire Universe. To make love is to create love, and to create love is to know God.
As we shift out of the Justice/Vengeance paradigm and into the Mercy/Forgiveness paradigm that will create Heaven on Earth, we will grow in faith and all her expressions: patience, joy and mercy. Every time you remember a situation where you hurt someone else, you can strengthen the Mercy/Forgiveness paradigm by forgiving yourself. The Forgiveness Prayer for forgiving yourself is almost the same as for forgiving others. “Please, God, let me be healed of all pain and sadness and let ______ be healed of all pain and sadness. Please don’t let me hurt anyone else the way I hurt _____.” Then you can apologize and make amends. If the person is no longer in your life, you can apologize to their soul. Imagine they are there in front of you, and say, “I’m so sorry I hurt you. I hope you are having a good life and I send you love in the form of a prayer for your happiness.” (Then do pray, asking God to heal the person and fill them with love.) Whenever you have a memory of a time you hurt others, forgive yourself. If you do not forgive yourself, you will not stop punishing yourself for past mistakes by unconsciously engaging in the sabotage of your present. Forgiving ourselves, then, involves viewing the past in the light of wholeness, taking responsibility for how deeply our actions and words can affect someone else (as we know first hand from experiences where we were hurt), apologizing and making amends. For so long, you may have thought guilt and shame were the same thing. Not so. Guilt is a teacher who will remind us (through our memories) how deeply our actions and words affected someone else in order to bring the mistake to our awareness. But if we were humiliated for making mistakes as children, we will associate feeling bad, Guilt, with being bad, Shame, whichis the state of feeling unworthy of existing and directly conflicts with the human survival instinct. Then, Denial of the mistake, or of our ability to make mistakes at all, Pride, becomes a matter of survival – literally a matter of life and death, of feeling forced to deny ourselves as flawed (and thus human!) in order to avoid Shame. We learned to use this lifesaver from parents or other authority figures who made us earn love and acceptance through behavior that deserved it. We don’t just exist because God allows it, they taught us, we must earn the right to exist, and won’t continue to deserve it without continued behavior that they approve of. This teaches us that love is approval, not the acceptance of ourselves as both flawed and still lovable which is the way that God and the angels love us. Such childhood lessons can impel us to try to forget about things we said or did or to unrealistically minimize the emotional impact they had on another person. When we are loving, our actions and words bring joy to others and create Heaven on Earth. When we aren’t, we remind others of the loss of Oneness with God. Those mistakes have already been forgiven by God but if we deny that we have made any, it won’t ever occur to us to forgive ourselves. Heaven on Earth will be achieved once everyone on Earth has forgiven others, God and themselves.